Age Does Not Matter

The popular thought “Age does not matter’ has been toying in mind the past few days. There is someone I know who is being wooed by someone almost twice her age. It made me worry actually. There are questions in mind that have been floating. I am talking about love between two individuals whose ages are distant.

Being married to someone who is only a year older than me, I do not know actually how a relationship between two individuals with a wide age range in between will work. I mean, I have been with my husband for long years and I say we complement each other very well and I connect it to us being in the same age range. I had believed it played a big part on the success of our relation. Or was it?

A friend shared her innermost beliefs on men particularly who sought younger women as their romantic partners. She views it as a vehicle for them to use or take advantage of (and/or abuse) these young women. For her, young women (especially those who are in their teens to their early twenties) chased by adult men is grotesque. She simply does not trust these men.

I silently disagree. It is for me irrational to generalize. Not all men are alike as it is with women. It is for me judgmental, too. We cannot just judge people with how they look. There are people who look like angels but deep within they are a*holes. It is still character that counts and it is the hardest to discern in a person. It takes a great deal of time to prove that one is worth. Let us say, for example, a mature man asks a young girl to go some remote place without asking her parents’ permission. How do you, as a parent, assess the act?

There are, for me, advantages for May-December affairs as clipped from Ipanema’s post about it. She had listed down some observations about an older man in a relationship with a younger woman:

• …more patient
• …more understanding
• …easily gives in to a stubborn woman
• …takes blame to stop argument
• …open car’s door for me
• …more sensitive – asks me where I want to eat, shop, etc…of course he paid
• …his wallet is always ready even if I offer to share

There may be disadvantages, too, which are induced mostly by insecurities. It is important therefore that young women have to be very careful and observant. There are wolves in sheep’s clothing that still prowl and they can be mellowed or inexperienced.