Funny how some people perceive arrogance as that of boasting alone or that of talking a lot and loud. The Encarta Dictionary tool has this definition:
n contemptuous pride: a strong feeling of proud self-importance that is expressed by treating other people with contempt or disregard
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It is not the loud mouth alone. SOME uncommunicative individuals are arrogant people, too. One has to observe how their eyes roll, their mouths twist, their eyebrows raise, or their smiles curdle just merely listening to somebody’s stories. Could it be that something was slighted within? Could it be that the inability to counter what one hears is reason enough to withdraw? Or is it because one thinks s/he is greater than the storyteller? Could it be arrogance in itself when one doesn’t care to utter a single word to counter or correct a statement?
I have been telling my children always to speak out what they think. There is a social responsibility to consider. It is not arrogance but self-confidence to speak out what one thinks is right. It is not wrong to assert. While most young people choose to be silent in the middle of discussions, my kids were not trained that way, or were not accustomed to that manner. They were trained not to be afraid to speak (in which case, we, as parents, have to endure the consequences, too), or share what they think (but not to brag). And most of the time, they are careful with their words on the premise that they don’t think or wish ill against others.
How ridiculous to listen to quiet-sounding storytellers who tell about their brand new signature stuffs. How can a simple-living citizen relate to that? I think to disregard how other people feel is pure arrogance. Self-importance is so magnified. Or they just don’t have anything of importance to say.
Let’s give the benefit of the doubt. I may be wrong but I may be right: Some tight-lipped egotists are arrogant, too.
Arrogance functions on the oxygen of its own modesty. The self-confidence that is part of being young is sensibly flexible.
Jerome Weidman (1913 – 1998)