A Sunday with Daryl

We went to the mall this afternoon. I say it’s one of the best days in my life – to go to the mall with my son. Daryl, at 17, sounds like very young, but if you get to be with him, you will discover he is ‘a man in a young boy’s body’.

The experience strolling with my son in the mall is better than taking a nap with the outdoor pillows. You know, between daughter and son, Daryl is better when it comes to discussion. On our way to EDSA for the bus, we talked about how he has this compulsion to pretend that everything is okay when it is not. He said that sometimes it pays to be ‘plastic’ like smiling and pretending that it’s okay when his grandma gives errand when he feels so tired from school.

In the bus, we talked about social responsibility. He said that it is easy to say that you should not do something for the approval of other people. But you find yourself doing something so that the others will be okay and that they will not feel bad.

He said that even if one is back with her old self again talking with someone who she had an altercation with, they still should find time to talk about what happened.

He said he does not enjoy shopping.

He said that he enjoys eating out. And we ate out at Savory. I enjoyed eating out with him.

I love my son. He’s the best son.

A Sunday with Daryl

We went to the mall this afternoon. I say it’s one of the best days in my life – to go to the mall with my son. Daryl, at 17, sounds like very young, but if you get to be with him, you will discover he is ‘a man in a young boy’s body’.

The experience strolling with my son in the mall is better than taking a nap with the outdoor pillows. You know, between daughter and son, Daryl is better when it comes to discussion. On our way to EDSA for the bus, we talked about how he has this compulsion to pretend that everything is okay when it is not. He said that sometimes it pays to be ‘plastic’ like smiling and pretending that it’s okay when his grandma gives errand when he feels so tired from school.

In the bus, we talked about social responsibility. He said that it is easy to say that you should not do something for the approval of other people. But you find yourself doing something so that the others will be okay and that they will not feel bad.

He said that even if one is back with her old self again talking with someone who she had an altercation with, they still should find time to talk about what happened.

He said he does not enjoy shopping.

He said that he enjoys eating out. And we ate out at Savory. I enjoyed eating out with him.

I love my son. He’s the best son.

A Sunday with Daryl

We went to the mall this afternoon. I say it’s one of the best days in my life – to go to the mall with my son. Daryl, at 17, sounds like very young, but if you get to be with him, you will discover he is ‘a man in a young boy’s body’.

The experience strolling with my son in the mall is better than taking a nap with the outdoor pillows. You know, between daughter and son, Daryl is better when it comes to discussion. On our way to EDSA for the bus, we talked about how he has this compulsion to pretend that everything is okay when it is not. He said that sometimes it pays to be ‘plastic’ like smiling and pretending that it’s okay when his grandma gives errand when he feels so tired from school.

In the bus, we talked about social responsibility. He said that it is easy to say that you should not do something for the approval of other people. But you find yourself doing something so that the others will be okay and that they will not feel bad.

He said that even if one is back with her old self again talking with someone who she had an altercation with, they still should find time to talk about what happened.

He said he does not enjoy shopping.

He said that he enjoys eating out. And we ate out at Savory. I enjoyed eating out with him.

I love my son. He’s the best son.

What Comes Out of the Mouth

Take note of the title. A lot of us do not think of what comes out of our mouth if it hurts or not, or if it will affect the recipient or the listener.

Not all recipients or listeners will just let some biting words get in the way that intends to insult or hurt other’s feelings. Not every listener will keep silent. What makes a situation complicated is when the recipient or the listener will retaliate or get square with words, too, which is much more stronger or biting. Are they to be blamed?

It is true that acceptance depends on a person, even the acceptance of words from other people. It is also true that we should not bear grudges against these tactless people. We should always practice patience and probably forgiveness. But still, we have to be responsible of what comes out of our mouth. We should always check ourselves by asking:

• What is the right way to converse?
• Who is this person we are talking to?
• What are we talking about? Is this serious stuff or not?
• How do I go against what the person is saying without offending?
• How do I praise her or him without exaggerating?

I have met a lot of people, and that required me to socialize with them. These included professional people but profession is not enough when a person has no manners or good traits.

Let’s take for example observing someone who has ‘real appetite’. It maybe more polite to say “You love eating” than saying “You are a glutton”. Also, let’s take a situation where an office mate shows a picture of her daughter. How will she take the question, “Why does she have a long chin?” How will she answer the ‘why’? Must she answer “I don’t know,” or “Because my husband has a long chin”? That is such a meaningless question and that would stop her from lovingly telling more stories about her beloved daughter.

Again, let us look at this situation in the office. An employee bought a new pair of shoes. One of the office mates noticed the new pair of shoes and remarked, “What a lovely pair of shoes but your feet do not look pretty on your shoes.” How should one react to such a statement?

The day becomes beautiful when what comes out of the mouth is positive. There maybe instances that what comes out of the mouth is negative but unavoidable circumstances are very different from deliberately saying things that will cause harm or will badly affect a person.