Photohunt: Musical

In 2010, we went to a ballroom party and witnessed a lot of musical dance performances but what caught our attention is the performance of a not so young but no so old woman and her dance instructor.  I could not remember the beat, if it was tango or cha-cha, but it was a very mesmerizing performance that caught everybody’s attention.  I learned later that the woman is a champion in many ballroom dance competitions.

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photohunt-labelShe looked so elegant and truly graceful.  She must be very strong and healthy to perform so fluid with the music.

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Complicated Love – Story #4

I give this story the title:  Take Pity on Yourself

These days I had been hearing about how relationships go with the younger generation, or how odd they seem to be.  I am sure that these things are not new and people in my generation will probably utter, “Not new,” or “Heard of it before,”. or even “Been there, done that.”  Complicated love situations is not exclusive to this younger generations.  Thing is, these experiences seem to come earlier these days when children are children those days and children act like adults sooner than parents or guardians expect these days. 😦

The couple in this story were very still very young when they started to have a relationship.  Well, from my point of view it would seem that way, and probably some others in my generation would disagree that they were still very young when they had this relationship.  To continue the story, the boy and the girl became ‘sweethearts’ for more than half a decade so it would seem that the relationship was getting stronger.

One day, the young man decided to call it quits because of the many reasons he had.  The young woman who was very much in love still would not allow it to happen.  In fear of depression on the part of the girl and of pity, the young man agreed that they should probably give the relationship a chance to heal and recover.  However, for the many attempts, the relationship did not prosper as the young man perceived it to be.  He again attempted to end the relationship to which, as expected, the young woman did not agree.  She begged and begged and in fear and in pity, the young man persuaded to agree with what the young woman wants – to give it a chance again and again.  As the days went on, this became a repetition, a lonely cycle for both of them.

My thoughts:

I could not imagine myself begging when the other party rejects me or dumps me.  I know some people will tell me that it is easier said than done, that people in love would do the extreme.  I could agree with that but not to the point of demeaning my self-worth.  No man, or woman, could harm me deliberately or unintentionally by making me beg.  It is not the end of the world when your partner or boyfriend or girlfriend falls out of love for you.  It could be worst to insist on the relationship to go on when it is not working anymore for both of you.  Love is a mutual thing and if the other party cannot afford to give it freely anymore, why go on?  Life does not end when this sh*tty things happen.

The young of today, as I observed, are so obsessed when they get into a relationship.  It happens mostly with the girls or with the young women, who involve themselves so much in a relationship, probably because they are prone to be affected by emotions.  What I have realized in life when it comes to relationships is the truth in what someone said that a young man or woman must first make themselves whole before getting in, and not fill up themselves with the illusion that they are whole because of their partner or loved one.  It is such a pitiful thing to be living only because of the existence of the other.  There must be reservations for one’s self always.  There has to be a larger portion left for the self when break-ups happen to be able to rise up from the situation.

I understand that it is not easy to get over but I believe that anybody can get over a failed relationship.  It has to start from the will to move on.

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Complicated Love – Story #2

Gay Couple with child
Gay Couple with child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Here is another post for this series:

Recently talks about same-sex relationship, same-sex marriage, or LGBT relationship surfaced when a television drama was aired – My Husband’s Lover.  As expected, the ‘what-ifs’ also emerged prompting anyone to share their opinions.  As expected, too, the holier than thou creatures recited again that these people should refrain from doing such sinful relationships or affair because they are so immoral.  Personally, I could not condemn nor praise these people.   I could only try to understand as there has to be reasons why there are inclinations or tendencies. I am very opposed though to their marriage as religion would not allow such, or teachings in churches or religious groups do not include same-sex marriages.

My story today is about a woman who met a man one day.  They eventually became friends but the man later on expressed his interest and love to the said woman.  The situation is not as easy because the man is currently in a relationship which, according to him, is a rocky one.  The woman is confused because she is starting to feel something towards the man as they are getting closer each day and had been getting to know more about each other on a regular basis.

One day, as the man was telling stories about his life, he mentioned that he had an affair with another man that ended after a short while.  The woman was shocked hearing this story and asked him how he was able to shift from ‘liking men’ to ‘liking women’.  The man readily said that he discovered that he is for women not men.  The woman got more confused and is anxious about her decision to pursue a relationship with the man.

Do you think it is right for the woman to forget about getting into a relationship with this man?

My Thoughts:

Every woman differs on the way they love.  Some women will ignore and not give importance to her lover’s past.  If the woman is confused, however, she has to consider how she feels about her lover’s atypical past, considering also his present rocky relationship with a woman, not that I am saying it is the man’s fault because he had been in a relationship with another man.  Even without this piece of information, the woman has to ‘investigate’ more why this man seems to be having difficulty staying in relationships, and what his true preferences are.

There is still time to back out and consider meeting other men because the woman’s relationship with the said man has not gone deep yet.  In addition, if there are doubts why pursue?

 

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Complicated Love: Story #1

English: So called Husband and Wife trees at L...
English: So called Husband and Wife trees at Lynncraigs Farm, Dalry, North Ayrshire, Scotland. Tree species – Blackthorn. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yes, love is a complicated matter at times, most of the times for some.   I am now sharing stories of complicated love situations (sources are varied :D). It starts today.

I believe there isn’t a perfect relationship but that there is always a dysfunction somewhere combined with it.  This is why complications happen at times where each of us reacts differently.

Here now is story #1:

Husband and wife lived with each other peacefully for years.   It seemed that everything is fine where husband worked and went straight home everyday to wife and kids.  Wife was a certified housewife that takes care of the three (3) kids and their needs, the house chores, and the husband’s needs.  She felt content and happy.  Who would not be when husband is a good provider and not living a life of vice?

One day, a knock was heard at the door.  When wife opened the door, a younger woman carrying a two-year-old child greeted her undecidedly with a gloomy smile.  Wife was told that the younger woman was seeing her husband for more than three years already and that the little child was his.  Husband does not know of the younger woman’s decision of seeing the wife.  Allegedly the husband was not visiting them anymore and had been remiss in his support for the child.

How would you react to this surprise?

My thoughts:

It would be hypocrisy not to feel anger towards the young woman who had suddenly decided to appear and tell me these hurtful things.  I might probably be sarcastic while investigating.  Am I to be blamed?  But because she was not alone in this as she had purportedly claimed, I will wait for the husband until he comes home.  His reaction will be almost enough to tell the real story once he saw our uninvited guest.

After confirming if it truly was his child, and that he had an affair with the woman, I would probably not talk of patching up things between me and him.  It will all be over but I will make sure that he shall support me and my children.  It would not be easy, I know.  I could probably burst into tears and will probably feel very devastated, weak, and confused, but I will make sure to gather the strength to compose myself.

What are your thoughts about this?  What would you do if something similar happens to you?

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Word of Mouth Equals Foolish Talk

While I was at the washing area spin drying clothes the other night, a group of men was outside drinking liquor.  This is a sight almost every night; the men drinking and talking noisily about anything.

But this night was different.  I do not have the intention of listening to idle talks especially coming from drunken men who are not even my friends.  Suddenly, one of them mentioned something about his wife always inspecting his cell phone.  It is a bad habit, I agree, especially if it becomes a regular habit.  We all deserve our privacy.  But what was the husband doing?  Why is he telling his comrades about his wife’s habit in a drunken state?

His complaint ensued a statement from the listeners, which is at that point are all in a drunken state, too.  The first one told him that his wife truly has a bad character and she is lucky that he (the husband) is kind enough to let the incident pass.  He continued that if he was the one in his place, he will slap her face or throw a chair to her.  (How cruel and barbaric!)  Then the other one seconded the motion and said, wives are like that.  He carried on saying that once her wife took the habit of nagging him and he gave her a knock on the head really hard that his wife stopped pestering him.  (I cannot believe that there exist husbands like these men in our neighborhood who can hurt their wives without regret!)

I was affected and truly annoyed.  While I was moving my head right and left in disagreement, I blurted out the words “foolish talk” and went inside the house ranting about the cruelty and insensibility of these men.  I told my husband about the whole thing.  He just smiled.  My daughter’s comment was that some men are ill-bred, shallow minded and uneducated.  They cannot even understand the “foolish talk” I cried.

My daughter was right.  Perhaps these men are truly, truly insensible that they had not even considered my presence and the possibility that I could hear what they were saying about a particular woman. (I was not very near them but I wasn’t even very far to hear them!)  I mean, how could they generalize as if saying I also have a bad trait?  I must have been very sensitive or thin-skinned but I tried my very best to weigh up that perhaps there was no intention against me and they are simply drunken men airing their drunken thoughts and sorrows.

Photohunt: Three

Kay's high school friends

This is my take on Photohunt‘s theme yesterday.  I know, I am late again.

These three girls are my daughter’s high school friends.  Pretty pic, isn’t it?  They look gorgeous.  I bet they are not searching for top fat burners yet.

In connection to this, I feel sad for those girls who suffer from anorexia and/or bulimia.  It is a frightening psychological illness that can probably cause death.   The pressure of vanity can truly harm and kill.

What Makes a Woman Complete?

The answer differs from one woman to another. I am complete because I had borne children for my husband. That may sound simplistic but it is true. For me, my womanhood was realized the first time I conceived a child. It is for me an affirmation of my being.

I know, it is that extremely simple for me but not for others. I think it depends on a woman’s needs, wants, desires or priorities. One office mate told me that she will be a complete woman only when she bears a child even without the father or a man by her side. A friend said that for her a complete woman is one who had achieved success in her career or life endeavor. A few view the concept as a woman who can be able to get what she wants – a wealthy man, or lots of money, or a luxurious car, or a grand house complete with all the lovely things like Kohler fixtures and a Canadian walk in bath tub.

While it is a bit odd for some that a particular woman is materialistic we are not to judge. It is her preference, her free will to choose what completes her. There are circumstances in life that lead from one thing to another. Who knows if this particular woman experienced destitution almost all her life? Or that it is just simply what she wants.

In the end, what really counts is how a woman attains completeness with grace. For me, I am a complete woman. No one can disprove that.

What Makes a Woman Complete?

The answer differs from one woman to another. I am complete because I had borne children for my husband. That may sound simplistic but it is true. For me, my womanhood was realized the first time I conceived a child. It is for me an affirmation of my being.

I know, it is that extremely simple for me but not for others. I think it depends on a woman’s needs, wants, desires or priorities. One office mate told me that she will be a complete woman only when she bears a child even without the father or a man by her side. A friend said that for her a complete woman is one who had achieved success in her career or life endeavor. A few view the concept as a woman who can be able to get what she wants – a wealthy man, or lots of money, or a luxurious car, or a grand house complete with all the lovely things like Kohler fixtures and a Canadian walk in bath tub.

While it is a bit odd for some that a particular woman is materialistic we are not to judge. It is her preference, her free will to choose what completes her. There are circumstances in life that lead from one thing to another. Who knows if this particular woman experienced destitution almost all her life? Or that it is just simply what she wants.

In the end, what really counts is how a woman attains completeness with grace. For me, I am a complete woman. No one can disprove that.

What Makes a Woman Complete?

The answer differs from one woman to another. I am complete because I had borne children for my husband. That may sound simplistic but it is true. For me, my womanhood was realized the first time I conceived a child. It is for me an affirmation of my being.

I know, it is that extremely simple for me but not for others. I think it depends on a woman’s needs, wants, desires or priorities. One office mate told me that she will be a complete woman only when she bears a child even without the father or a man by her side. A friend said that for her a complete woman is one who had achieved success in her career or life endeavor. A few view the concept as a woman who can be able to get what she wants – a wealthy man, or lots of money, or a luxurious car, or a grand house complete with all the lovely things like Kohler fixtures and a Canadian walk in bath tub.

While it is a bit odd for some that a particular woman is materialistic we are not to judge. It is her preference, her free will to choose what completes her. There are circumstances in life that lead from one thing to another. Who knows if this particular woman experienced destitution almost all her life? Or that it is just simply what she wants.

In the end, what really counts is how a woman attains completeness with grace. For me, I am a complete woman. No one can disprove that.

I am Woman

I am Woman. Who belongs to this country, or better, who belongs to this world. I have my own universe where I move, my own thoughts, my own desires, my own beliefs, my own weaknesses, have a variance from Man (or is there?).

I am one of the ordinary but I believe has a big difference from the ordinary.

I am Eve trying to alleviate my living from the destitution I was born with. I am Eve who fights the challenges in life – trying to liberate own family from poverty, working alone, alone facing life’s hurdles.

I am Eve, unashamed of saying what I feel and think about many things. Even the desire to attain pleasure during intercourse is expressed freely. Even in areas where I want to be touched, kissed, caressed, I say frankly without hesitation or doubt or worry. I am Eve who tries ways to earn and receive bliss.

I am Woman who believes in God, in His power, in His mystery, in His mercy. I am Woman who does not hesitate to tell God my thoughts and my desires.

There are many Eves who just receive and not give; who keeps silent and not talk when needed; who gives in and not refuse when required; and who just watch and not participate.

I do not belong to that group of Eves – I give, I talk, I refuse, I participate. I make sure that I have my rights intact, I have my freedom and the respect that is due me.

Different? Bold? Maybe. But I am not an ordinary Eve.

Where Women Keep Harems of Men

One of the 25 facts about women around the world written by Kelly of She-Power got my attention.

In parts of Malaya, the women keep harems of men.

What is a harem by the way?

The word harem originated from the following:
– 1634, from Turk
from Arabic haram “wives and concubines” originally “women’s quarters”
– lit. “something forbidden or kept safe”
– from root of
harama “he guarded, forbade”

Harem has other meanings that say “the wives, concubines, female relatives, and servants occupying such a place”, or ” a group of women sexual partners for one man”.

In the Turkish region, it was men who keep harems of women for their sexual pleasure. But hey, in Kelly’s post of facts, it was women who keep harems of men. Totally the opposite!

Is it a bad indication that women in Malaya keep harems of men? Is it demeaning for women? It can be an expression of women power, of freedom. It is maybe an expression that women can also do what men do. Even to the point of having a collection of men for sexual pleasure.

Where on earth is Malaya?

British Malaya loosely described a set of states on the Malay Peninsula that were colonized by the British from the 18th and the 19th until the 20th century. Before the formation of Malayan Union in 1946, the colonies were not placed under a single unified administration. Instead, British Malaya comprised the Straits Settlements, the Federated Malay States and the Unfederated Malay States. Malaya was the world’s largest producer of tin and later rubber.

Malayan Union was dissolved and replaced with Federation of Malaya in 1948. It became independent on 31 August 1957. On 16 September 1963, the federation, along with Sabah, Sarawak and Singapore formed a larger federation called Malaysia.


This is for Women…

Not exactly. This is for women, yes. But this is a weblog for all women and for all those who love women and everything about them.

I decided to put a page for women, finally. I have been wanting to create a page for us, women. Everything that relates to a woman will be posted here. With some reservations, of course, but not really strictly censored.

Allow me, therefore, to introduce this space.