Overwhelming Japanese Food

There is one Japanese food restaurant we had frequented last year.  It is such an experience.  And yes, I can use the word overwhelming here. In different ways, I have to say.

This one here is one of the best tasting sobas I had.  Once you dig in and bring the noodles to your chewing and tasting apparatus to be eaten up, you’ll know the difference.  It makes you realize that the temptation to eat a lot can be overwhelming.

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Jealousy in Children: Adults Need to Learn More

I am inclined to believe that adults somehow cause the jealousy that children feel.  After all, children learn from adults and they’re like sponges, taking in the good and bad, acting like their attention is on something but actually listening, observing, and drawing in everything that catches their attention.

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I bought a gift for a little child that my husband is so fond of for one of those holiday gatherings.  I had difficulty choosing a toy because my children, as I have mentioned in a previous post, do not want to give toy guns as gifts.  The little child loves cars, but he also has many toy cars already.

A big red car caught my attention, not knowing at first that it was a remote-controlled car.  The sales lady explained everything to me in detail including how one button will automatically open the doors.  I got so fascinated with the idea that the little child will be amazed of the gift that after her powerful sales talk, I was persuaded to buy.  I did not doubt that my husband will be disappointed.

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The Word Liminal and the Toy Gun

The boy above is Drey. He’s my husband’s regular morning visitor, the reason why he had gotten so fond of this little 3-year-old boy.

One day, he told me to buy a toy gun for Drey. I am so forgetful that I haven’t got a chance to buy one. When the daughter came to visit, my husband asked her to buy a toy gun for the little boy but my daughter refused. My grown-up children believe that toy guns are not the right toys for kids. Continue reading “The Word Liminal and the Toy Gun”

Developing a Core Value Called Integrity

If you will be asked if you possess integrity, will you be confident to say YES?

It will surely make you think not only twice.  After I read some articles the other night about this value, I was not as confident anymore.  I realized that we are all guilty at some points in our lives not having integrity.  I, for one, had lied (white and black lies) many times and in defense, it’s always because what the situations warranted.  It’s always about justifying that what I did was just right because it was what I thought was best and easy way out of a circumstance.

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photo from soulseeds

According to Amy Rees, an author and a weekly contributor to Forbes and The Huffington Post, “Integrity is doing the right thing at all times and in all circumstances whether or not anyone is watching.”

That line alone surely will make most of us feel uncomfortable.   Why would we not if some of us renders overtime work without an output defending the deed as right because the pay is low?  Why would we not if the janitor, for example, wanders about or do other things not related to his work, because ‘everybody is doing it’?  Why would we not if the leadman spends much time on his cellular phone because he believes his efforts are not recognized?  Why would we not if a manager thinks he is the most intelligent species in the organization that is why the high pay but is not effective?  Why would we not if an officer gets a kickback from purchases because he thinks he deserves it for the long tenure he has in the company?  I am sure there are lots of situations we can talk about that that line from Ms. Rees will grate on our person.

Being able to realize that we have not practiced integrity at some points in our lives and desire to develop ourselves is a different thing though.  It is an act of integrity, too, to admit that we failed before to develop this core value as an individual, as an employee, as a friend, as a boss, etc., and to desire to change especially if it’s not late to do it.

We cannot just say that we are a people of integrity or moral uprightness without others be the ones telling us that we are such people.  It is like faith without actions.  Faith is dead without walking the talk, or professing it but not doing the truthful and honest things we must do in any situation.

Quoting more from Amy Rees, “If we surround ourselves with people who are dishonest and willing to cut courses to get ahead, then we’ll surely find ourselves following a pattern of first enduring this behavior, then accepting their behavior, and finally adopting their behavior.”

Some Surprising Facts in Philippine History

The UB suggestion is about cool facts in history. I am a Filipino and I wanted to share this post about six (6) surprising Filipino historical facts.

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American Mark-43 nuclear bomb from Filipiknow.net

The fact that affected me most among the six is the nuclear bomb that fell into the Philippine Sea and it’s still missing. It was only in the 1980s when it was revealed that the Mk. 43 free-fall bomb was lost.

It makes me feel scared, even now, that the weapon which is at least a megaton’s worth of nuclear explosive was never found.  Questions popped into my mind like – How come it is missing?  What if it’s there submerged in the Philippine seabed waiting to explode? What is the chance that it will be triggered to explode? To what extent will the damage caused by explosion spread?

Life quotes, anyone?

It’s nice to learn about other quote web sites aside from Brainyquotes which I frequent.  I love quotes.  They have inspired me in many ways.  One of my favorites are life quotes.  Here are samples from Quotelicious.com:

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A great attitude becomes a great day which becomes a great month which becomes a great year which becomes a great life.

— Mandy Hale

MY TAKE: I realized that a great life does not equate to a life with lots of money only.  A lot of rich people are not happy.  It is how a life is well-lived by having that attitude of positivity and hope.

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Everyone should smile. Life really isn’t that serious. We make it hard. The sun rises. The sun sets. We just tend to complicate the process.

– Unknown

MY TAKE: I really cannot understand why people choose to be indifferent which is mostly a result of jealousy or insecurity.   Instead of finding a good reason to smile by doing something productive for their lives, they focus on others who have nicer clothes, or shoes, better paying jobs, or big houses, and fault-find to find satisfaction for themselves.  Utterly ridiculous and pitiful.

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Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it is inspiring.             – Unknown

MY TAKE : One commenter thought that inspiration we get from disability is a kind of objectification.  I disagree.  It is rather a strong motivational thing to show the world that despite the disability, life goes on.  My husband is a physically challenged man.  After the stroke, the situation changed.  He had to stay at home with the kids (with my MIL, too) and I had to go to work.  He raised pigs to augment the family expenses.  This he did while taking care of the children.  I took part of the ‘taking care’ after an 8-hour office work.  There were a lot of stories to tell.  To wrap it up, he was such an inspiration that was also an example not to give up despite the trials.

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Photohunt: Spots

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I am sure everyone of us have our favorite food SPOTS that become our favorite for all season. Banapple is a bakery and cafe that serves not only pies, cakes and desserts but also good food for breakfast, lunch or dinner.

Here are some of our favorites (You can click the thumbnails for a larger view):

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Looks aren’t everything.

This TED talk by model Cameron Russell is fearless indeed.

“I won a genetic lottery and I’m the recipient of a legacy.”  This bold statement defines how the advertising  business and most of the world see beauty.

“The thing… that I have never said on camera is that I am insecure.  And I am insecure because I have to think about what I look like everyday.”  Who would have thought that such a young and beautiful lady would be insecure? But she is.

Here is the video you all will admire.  It is not easy to admit the superficiality of it all.  While most young girls are embarrassed about their bodies and how they look, here is a model saying she is insecure and unhappy and I think it is because she is not that person we see in Vogue, or any other magazine, but someone who is like most of us, afraid, and unsure.

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"I don’t know what a Teddy Bear is."

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I was born in a family where teddy bears or other stuffed toys weren’t common or weren’t even bought as gifts to the children.  I don’t recall receiving a teddy bear or a stuffed toy.  I recall having a little plastic doll as one of my toys. There were clay pots, too, and sardine cans converted into carts with wheels made of soft drink bottle caps or what they call tansan.  There were many toys from native materials that everybody enjoyed playing with.  Nobody among the kids brought a teddy bear as far as I can recall.  We were a happy lot, though, so to speak, baked by the sun most of the time, bathed in our sweat and smell, and clad in assorted threadbare shirts and shorts.

I and my siblings and all the kids in our neighborhood grew to play the traditional games of piko, patintero, luksong baka, luksong tinik, agawan base, patay-patayan, hand clapping games, calahoyo, holen, chinese garter, jack en poy, to name a few.  One can learn about these games at Wikipedia. Just search for ‘traditional games in the Philippines‘.

My father is a private contractor of painting and carpentry jobs. One day, he brought me along with him to the house of one of his clients.   The house was big and I was introduced to the daughter who was my age.  I maybe eight or nine years old that time.  The daughter was kind, as I remember (otherwise, I will remember if she’s not nice  :D), and she invited me to play with her.  She said “Laro tayo ng teddy bear ko! (Let’s play with my teddy bear!)”  Recollecting, I was not able to say anything but my uninformed inner-self was screaming, “Hindi ko alam kung ano ang teddy bear. (I do not know what a teddy bear is.)”  She made me follow and finally we were in a playing space just beside the house with a few of her toys which are all novelty items to me.  They looked so pretty and shiny and colorful except for one that looks like a furry animal.

The girl, unaware of my ignorance, took the furry animal toy and said to me, “‘Eto si Teddy. (Here is Teddy.)”  It was like she was introducing Teddy, the furry animal, the teddy bear (must be, I thought), to me.  I was so speechless at that time and it felt like an overwhelming feeling of joy and sadness took over me.  I played anyway.

I must have pushed away those feelings I didn’t want that I had when we got home.  Days past and life went on.  There were many teddy bears I met along the way.  I haven’t had one up to the time I was an adult.  It seemed that I deliberately did not allow to be fond of that toy.  It was a painful reminder and the defense mechanism was to ignore.

Things changed when I had my first baby.  The beautiful tiny baby girl had no idea that she will be meeting Teddy early on.

Some days, I really get bored with Facebook

This is a personal view and is not intended to malign the social networking site.

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There are days that I get bored with Facebook. Just like anything else, the novelty of it all, for me, faded. Though the activities posted are varied, it became routine for me. Perhaps it is just me.

I am getting tired of reading updates that seem nonsensical to me. I love photography and anything related to it, I find interesting. But recently, there are quotes in designed frames that are becoming eye sores to me. I am getting tired of vanity posts or photos. I am getting tired of ad-like updates that want to tell the world, “I am rich!” I have not understood the idea of flaunting.

There are too many things given freely each second at FB as updates. Some of them are even come-ons. Information overload is not a good thing, I guess.

I just wanted to tell that I do not visit FB that frequent anymore, or if ever I visit, it does not take long. Still a fan of the hype? Or are you like me getting bored?  With Facebook, that is.

This is from a discussion board I joined before where I am not active anymore.  The comments below were also from those people in that discussion board.

inertia

I think the novelty of FaceBook has worn off a long time ago to many people. But still lots of people use it as a minute to minute update system. I am also bored with FaceBook, I go there once in a while now. There is no incentive to keep my interest there, except promoting sites like MyLot and others I use. Now, if FaceBook decided to pay it’s members, then I believe FaceBook would explode all over again. But I agree with you.

enelym001

Hi bingskee! I feel that way too, I have written about it as well in another site. I’m getting tired with facebook too and I’m just keeping for the sake of my brother who’s away from us and some relatives we need to communicate with. There were times before that I was so curious about updates of those people I know, but I feel there’s nothing to it now but just bragging about their new car, their travels abroad, their breakup with boyfriend – including the word fight with their boyfriends. It all seems nonsense knowing and seeing what’s happening with their life.

Leocen

i can’t even use it cos it’s in china. we can just use qzone there.just the feel as you do, bragging their new single lens cameas and skills of picturing,and complaints about friends . nothing appeals to me ,

giepuz

I feel that too and it came to a point that I deactivated my Facebook account temporarily. 😦 I only activate it it when I want to view the current pictures of my baby nephew.

Mashnn

From the start, I was never a fun of facebook. I only visit it sometimes when I have something to check out.

cher913

me too. although i like to know what my friends and family are up to, i find it kind of boring to spend a lot of time in there. i only spend about 5 minutes in there when i am there.

Joni

I am bored with it also. I play games and have even gotten tired of those. I don’t have much family on there. And my real friends play the games and that is all I see from them on there There is no conversation. Just seems like such a huge waste of time.

miadsoriano

I just signed up for a Facebook account at the start of the year. And about 4 or 5 months into it, I already found it boring. I just go online to greet people on their birthdays.

dorannmwin

You aren’t at all alone in your opinion of facebook. I will admit that I visit on a daily basis because of the fact that is the only way that I’m able to keep in touch with many of my friends and family members. With that said, I don’t spend nearly the amount of time on there as I used to when I was newer to facebook. The games and such are just not nearly as appealing to me as they used to be so I will read updates and that is it.

seriousnuts

I strongly agree with you, but as for me, I don’t only get bored, I also feel very very annoyed with Facebook. People just wouldn’t stop posting. The majority of their posts are nonsensical. I also despise vanity posts. Facebook is not a dating site! (or is it?) I also hate posts that show hatred toward another user. If they want to confront someone, they should just tell it to the person face-to-face. Sad how this wonderful site has turned out to be a tool to backstab people, flirt, flaunt, or whatever other nonsensical purposes they have in mind. I want to deactivate my account, but I have to admit there are.

babykeka80

I basically use facebook for the silly games. I love all those stupid games Zynga puts out on facebook. I will sometimes post a status or respond but that is basically it. It seems like everyone continues to copy and paste the same pics, sayings, etc. and it does get annoying. I haven’t completely given up on it yet but maybe soon.

Browisn

I’m with you babykeka80. If it weren’t for all the mindless, senseless, fun games from Zynga I would spend much less time on facebook. I usually open it to see how members of my family and extended family are doing, but lately they aren’t posting much news either. So I just stick around for the games like CiteVille and previously Mafia Wars and countless others that I’ve generally lost interest in.

Woody7189

Yes, I am also becoming bored with facebook. At first it was new and exciting and I really enjoyed reconnecting with many old friends. However at this point it is nothing exciting and I don’t go on there very often. I never spend more than an hour a day on facebook.

tash01

Facebook can be boring at times, especially if your online an no one to talk with.I log-in twice per day,to check message and play the game farnville.Are is a friend said i will talk for a while,an when am through using farmville i will log out till in the evening. It is boring to some people,while entertaining to other.

vistar1991

Yes i agree with you,Now Facebook has become extremely boring.it is causing frustrations because of repeated notifications.though i have many friends on Facebook but they always seemed to be offline.No genuine notifications.Those apps & game request is flooding my account.Now the name of the Facebook is seen everywhere in advt ,t.v ,commercials and it is just frustrating me. Sometimes i even find operating Facebook very difficult.

Rosa26

Here in my house my son is bored too, my husband doesn’t likes FB he only goes to FB one in a month and never post,I only go to FB one a day to see my niece and nephew and others relative as a mater of I enter today and spend only 5 minutes,yes I got bored of FB too.

ckayth

other than stalking my crush’s Facebook and know every details of it there are also quite interesting stuffs i see on Facebook(i hope you too)that i like. The be-friend thing,Liking thing and a little chat on my girlfriends.And i totally agree that along the way it becomes more like a routine although there are some variations. we do the same thing over and over again(soft critics) and it’s quite annoying the “feeling close” i can sense from some liking sapiens (opposite i mean). Not just because you like my photos and status,what are we now? bestfriends? haha.i’m mean at it but it make sense.

ehleonkyrietales

But the thing is, facebook gets too much from our generated traffic and they didn’t even bother returning even a cent of their continues revenue. Here dear… you are paid and trust me, mylot discussions are more sensical – way more sensical than facebook stuff. Happy mylotting and I’m hoping you’d be active around here.

telmesh

Never a big fan I have friends there that play the games and do nothing else. I use it to post pics. taken whilst on holiday and check out friends pics. Other than that it’s not worth that much to me.

weasel181

I agree, I don’t play the games on there as I’ve not got any interest in them. I find a lot of the status up dates can be just stupid, like do we really need to hear about every minute of some peoples lives???? I only post on there when I have something interesting to say, not that I get many comments. I usually do likes, and think more forum type site should have something like that added in.

allysum90

I still go on Facebook quite frequently, but I see your point. When people get to the point when they are posting about the most mundane things it seems pointless. I mostly check Facebook for keeping up to date with my close friends that I don’t always get to see on a day-to-day basis. I also like to know what’s going on with my relatives I only get to visit once a year.

HJSBurnett

Me too! I would be a lot more interested if there was a way I could make money off of it! If anyone knows how, message me! I NEED MONEY!!!

 

Daryl’s Birthday Extension at Peking Garden

We woke up early.  It’s a day Daryl intended to celebrate his birthday.  It’s the most awaited day.  We were going to eat at Peking Garden where the famous Peking duck was said to be the best among the best of Peking duck dishes in the metro.

I prayed before we left that all will be alright because we were destined to go to Glorietta at Ayala where Peking Garden is. It is far from where we were.  The one at Trinoma already closed down (unfortunately) when Daryl decided to check and taste the goodness of the renowned dish.

Anyway, as I continue, the preachy ones will probably tell that God didn’t hear my prayer because on our way to Ayala, the car overheated and we had to stop by at a gasoline station.  But this is another story.

We turned to Buendia as Kay had instructed Papsie, opposed to the instructions I read on the net that we had to turn to Palm Drive.   I panicked (silently) that all of us does not exactly know where our destination was.  I, for one, was not used to frequent Makati and Ayala, and all I was hearing were they were not sure.  It irked me, I have to admit, but after some playing around with chances, we were able to reach our destination which was a long walk away from where we parked.

Peking Garden is located at Greenbelt 5.  On our way we saw a lagoon where you can throw food (at kois) that you can get after inserting two 5-peso coins in a machine.

After this, we proceeded to where Peking Garden was.  Greenbelt is a huge place, and one where the ‘loaded’ go.  We were ‘outcasts’.

We had a blast.  Surprisingly, the peking duck meat was all goodness!  The shrimp dumpling (hakao) were pure bliss, and also the fried bean curd.

We first tried to eat the peking duck meat with the cucumber and the leeks wrapped in what seemed to be a lumpia wrapper but thicker. You have to dip the meat first in a special, yummy sauce before the wrapping.

The second way to eat the peking duck was with a soup which was also a delicious treat.  The last way to eat the delicacy was to wrap the minced duck meat  with a romaine lettuce (with a sauce, too).

It’s a wonderful, wonderful experience.  Daryl also ordered fried rice with peking duck meat and also scrambled egg with minced dried scallops.  We were told that the latter was a best seller, too.

He was mentally prepared for it, he said. Including the expenses.  😀 Despite the challenging day for all of us (which will be another story), we enjoyed a lot and treated ourselves with scoops of Sebastian’s chocolate with rhum ice cream when we finally got home!

 

 

 

 

Unfriend vs. Unfollow – What’s your Facebook choice?

I remember a FB (Facebook) friend, who was a colleague in one of those workplaces I had been to, who told me to just set my privacy settings so that I will not be ‘unfriending’ or ‘rejecting the request of’ the person but instead click the privacy buttons in order not to see any of the person’s posts.  It was said to that effect, not able to remember exactly his words. His concern must be that I would offend somebody knowing him to be that kind and friendly.

I did not heed the advice.  There were instances where I had accepted people in Facebook who were not really my friends in the truest sense of the word, and some of them are not even acquaintances but strangers.  (Well, a big part of those in my ‘FB friends’ list are actually strangers because I have not met them in person but in all its fairness to the concept of ‘FB friend’ I had gotten to know some of them through some friends, and through blogging and other forms of media, plus theirs posts or statuses).  If a FB friend’s post becomes unintelligible and/or offensive, or could be something I will be undesirably involved, I decide to ‘unfriend’.    Lately, I only ‘unfollow ‘ remembering that friend’s concern of offending somebody’s feelings; then decide finally, after a few days or weeks depending on circumstances, to ‘unfriend’.  I am usually quiet or reticent about this decision not to cause any mess.

Just the other day, I discovered that one of the FB friends ‘unfriended’ me.  I would be a hypocrite to say I wasn’t affected.  The person is an idol to many but for me the person was also an internet friend, and I refused to believe otherwise until now.  Actually, that FB friend is an icon in the internet world with a flair that is so unique and comic.  But the FB friend ‘unfriended’ me and I thought to myself, “This is probably how it feels like to be rejected by an icon, or how others feel when I ‘unfriend’ them in FB (not that I think I am an icon, too)”.

Two days passed with me moping about the whole thing and finally I decided with this thought, “For whatever reason the person had ‘unfriended’ me, I do think it does not matter anymore.  I can think of a lot of reasons (that could be worst for all I know) but would it bring forth satisfaction knowing if the reason(s) are valid enough for me to say “Oh, it’s okay to ‘unfriend’ me if that’s case”?  I guess not.  The act of rejection is still rejection. It is very clear that I am not an important part of the person’s FB circle of friends.  It’s just that simple.  No need to complicate.”

On deciding to ‘unfriend’ or ‘unfollow’

I believe it is everybody’s right to ‘unfriend’ or ‘unfollow’.  No need to be guilty about it.  Just think of a scenario where your boyfriend or girlfriend continuous to be a burden for many years.  Would you stay in the relationship if you think there is something wrong about it? Practicality demands you to consider drastic options.  I know that there would be many ‘what ifs’ that will surface but reason has it that you should not torture yourself.  Love thy self first, as what the well-known and unknown people say.

It is somehow similar with a social media network like Facebook.  You start to build relations that you think could be beneficial to you, one way or another, you exchange/share posts, statuses, and PMs for a time, and then discovered there is something wrong.  You ‘unfriend’ then the other party gets upset, or insulted, of feels snubbed, most probably.  It could be possible that you receive e-mails of hatred, too, but should you be guilty of your decision?  It was your decision.  Unless, you decided out of impulse, it is your choice that you think is best for the current situation.  Nobody should question you for it.

On the other hand, to ‘unfollow’ is more subtle.  The person will not immediately know that you do not want to receive any of his/her posts/statuses.  The discovery will be later, or you can fake knowing the posts/statuses when the person asks you about it.  It might be a better option for some but for me, there are reasons one decides to ‘unfriend’ instead of ‘unfollow’ and they are varied in nature.

There is much about the real world.  Facebook is not the real world.  We cannot be dependent upon what transpires in a social media network.  It is just a tool.  It is just a device to connect you with people that you have not

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Facebook logo Español: Logotipo de Facebook Français : Logo de Facebook Ti?ng Vi?t: Logo Facebook (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

seen for a long time, that you have lost, that you desired to know (more),  etc. etc. but the truth is, you get that feel of friendship  more when you meet in person.  There is nothing better than exchanging hugs, kisses, stories, endearments, sympathies, salutations, etc. in real life.  Virtual exchanges sometimes give those falsities that could be disappointing or frustrating.

Go ‘unfriend’ or ‘unfollow’. You have every right to do it.

What is a blessing to you?

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Hard times are sometimes blessings in disguise. Let it go and let it make you better. (Photo credit: deeplifequotes)

 

On of those lunch times, me and some friends were talking about blessings. I mentioned that I sometimes get irked listening to other people talking about ‘blessings’. It seems that they are connecting ‘blessings’ to monetary gain they are receiving or equate them always to money received.

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53 and pregnant, so what?

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A pregnant woman (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the Today’s show, this was the topic. The bone of contention is if the woman will be healthy enough to take care of a child.

One of the panelists said that he had his first biological son when he
was 49 and he thinks he is a better parent because he is smarter and he
has enough knowledge on things.

Do you agree?

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