Jealousy in Children: Adults Need to Learn More

I am inclined to believe that adults somehow cause the jealousy that children feel.  After all, children learn from adults and they’re like sponges, taking in the good and bad, acting like their attention is on something but actually listening, observing, and drawing in everything that catches their attention.

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I bought a gift for a little child that my husband is so fond of for one of those holiday gatherings.  I had difficulty choosing a toy because my children, as I have mentioned in a previous post, do not want to give toy guns as gifts.  The little child loves cars, but he also has many toy cars already.

A big red car caught my attention, not knowing at first that it was a remote-controlled car.  The sales lady explained everything to me in detail including how one button will automatically open the doors.  I got so fascinated with the idea that the little child will be amazed of the gift that after her powerful sales talk, I was persuaded to buy.  I did not doubt that my husband will be disappointed.

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The Word Liminal and the Toy Gun

The boy above is Drey. He’s my husband’s regular morning visitor, the reason why he had gotten so fond of this little 3-year-old boy.

One day, he told me to buy a toy gun for Drey. I am so forgetful that I haven’t got a chance to buy one. When the daughter came to visit, my husband asked her to buy a toy gun for the little boy but my daughter refused. My grown-up children believe that toy guns are not the right toys for kids. Continue reading “The Word Liminal and the Toy Gun”

Nothing but a second rate, trying hard copycat!

The prompt reminds me of an acclaimed Filipino movie released in 1985 – Bituing Walang Ningning -, which translates to ‘star without luster’.  It was in this movie where one of those memorable lines was delivered by the supporting actress – “You’re nothing but a second-rate, trying hard copycat!”  Nothing beats controversial lines like that in movies.

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The versatile actress named Cherie Gil who played as a famous singer threatened by a newcomer in the industry was very effective in her role.  That kind where you almost hate her for being so vile in her realistic role. Continue reading “Nothing but a second rate, trying hard copycat!”

Would you give away your child after birth upon learning about the birth defect?

English: “This newborn is displaying the birth defect known as [:w:Polydactylia|Polydactylia] involving both feet.” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
As others had opined, this is truly a tough question and scary to think about.

As an able mother, meaning one that has all the resources and readiness to take care of a child, giving a child with a birth defect is not an option. The child did not ask to be born. It is not even his or her fault to be with defect so why would a mother give away a child? A mother should love without conditions and that is the essence of it all.

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Which year would you choose to live life over again, if given the chance?

Wonderful Life (1964 film)
Wonderful Life (1964 film) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

That is one question I read that had me thinking. I’d choose 1983. Why? That is when I felt true love the first time. That is when I felt I couldn’t breathe because of excitement. That is when I had my first kiss that sent shivers all over me. That is when I felt confident that I am lovable and huggable.

Truly, a lot of things happened during that year. Alongside the exhilaration, it was also the year my father got very ill. It gave me that heavy, huge feeling of responsibility on my shoulder. But I tried to be strong. I guess it was what made me strong all along.

Which year would you choose to live life over again?

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This is from a discussion board I joined before where I am not active anymore.  The comments below were also from those people in that discussion board.

From EstiiBabii

I think I would chose to live 1999 all over again, even though I was a
child back then I enjoyed life during those years. I had many friends, I
was had many toys, I’d always played with my friends in the park. I
remember always going to the park during the summer time and having my
water guns in gear and running around trying to wet my friends and them
trying to wet me. I remember how much fun it was that year, I would love
to live that year once again.

From hardworkinggurl

Hi bingskee

1987 & 1989 the two years I had both of my kids. I would give
anything to have them tiny again. Though life has been sweet during
their growing years, I wold love to have those two wonderful and
memorable days once again.

I personally would not do anything different about the years as I would
not have had such a wonderful life with my two kids. Sure their ups and
downs but remembering I was their mommy and that they were my babies
made it all worthwhile for me. I actually would not change a single
thing as I want to remember all of it as is.

From thesids

Hi GF 1987 & 1989 the two years I had both of my kids

And in 1989 I passed out class 10th… Gosh!

 

Dear Ms. Bingskee

Well, 3!

anything between 1976 to 1985 on the first one. My late grandmother me
and my late grandfather really were a family and I can do anything to
get back to those days.

Then, 1989-1994 – any one for the second. College days. No study and all
the activity that I did staying in and away from the college.

And then, 1998-200 anyone for the third. Best part of my life as far as
career was concerned.

Any one of the above would be great. Tell me when do I arrive to get
into the time machine

From miadsoriano

It’s not just a year that I’m interested in. It’s for the whole time
that Jose Rizal lived on this Earth. If I can browse-fastforward through
his whole life, from the time he was born, and until his execution,
then I think I will be happy.

I’m really curious as to his vast knowledge, his education, his travels,
how he got into linguistics, his whole personality. Would like to
really find out how charming he was then. How mysterious. Everything.
And if I can take someone with me on this journey, it would definitely
be my husband, who has the same level of curiosity when the subject
matter is Rizal. 🙂

From dorannmwin

I think that I will chose 1999. The reason that I would chose that year
is because it was the year of my life that I really started to make good
friends when I was in college. In addition to that, it was also the
year that I fell in love for the first time. I will admit that the
relationship that I had during that time didn’t turn out well, but to go
through it again would be a great thing for me because things would be
different knowing then what I know now.

From Jlyn10

If I tell you, would you take me back in time?

I would choose the year 1979 cause I was still small and just love being
pampered by my family members. It was a great time for everyone back
then.

I also would choose the year 2000 as that was the time when my son was
born. I just love the time spent with him, just looking at him while he
sleeps. I want to him see grow up again from the start.

From toniganzon

I would choose to live in the 80s again when i was just a child of
tender years with my parents both still alive and taking care of us. I
really missed them a lot. I don’t like the 90s coz they got murdered in
1991.

From vandana7

I would choose 1963. My mom was alive then. I would want to be with her
once more. From what I have known her now, I just want to go back there,
and appreciate her, and love her, and make her feel loved and
understood.

From ladydulce

None! I’m more excited for the years I have coming. I can relive the
others as much as I want in memory, but I wouldn’t trade watching my son
grow to be a man and starting his own family or learning what’s in
store for me. Too cool to go back.

From LittleMel

it would be 2009. very meaningful and rejuvenating year.
as if all doors were opened for me, starting from improvement of
spiritual life
that leads to major change in my perspectives and life decisions
change inward manifests outward, I have actually found like-minded
trustworthy friends and teachers in the same year and they contribute to
more exhilarating changes in me
there is no year like 2009 to me. at least not yet.

From wongchoiyee

80s to early 90s
That’s when everything is so good, money was never a problem, I get
along with my brother whom now moved out, my mom and dad pampered me,
and lots of friends, good friends. But now we have graduated we lost
touch but once again I looked forward to future because I want myself to
find a true love and get married.

From peach786

2004 definitely! that’s when i had my 1st heart attack only 2 weeks
before my son’s wedding. Can’t get any close call than that! Wife was
called from my office to head to the hospital dropping all her chores.
All family members were assembled, and the in-laws left in limbo.
Hospital got the wind that my presence was very essential at the pre-wed
preparations so the doctors prioterised my angioplasty, put couple of
stents inside my arteries the same evening, gave me a light supper and a
cup of tea and turned off the lights for the night. i was home the next
day, and we all had our first and best family wedding ever!

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Why "Pusong Bato" Became a Monster Hit

I remember Yoyoy Villame saying that if a novelty song can be sung by even the little children and the young teenagers, then it’s going to be a hit.  Even without them understanding lyrics, if the song clicked with the young surely it will become popular.

Just how singer Yoyoy described it, the Pusong Bato became a hit because the young generation was able to sing it, and with gusto.  Or does the tune have something to do with it?

Here is a version by Renee Alon de la Rosa:

 

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Will You Choose to Know a Secret?

Well Kept Secret
Well Kept Secret (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It depends on what secret I have to know. If someone will ask me if I am interested to know her beauty secret then I will oblige. If somebody will tell me where the bullions of gold were kept by the Japanese, I would desire to know this secret.

Kidding aside, somebody hinted that she has something to tell me. With already a guess that what I will be listening to is about a forbidden affair. I politely declined. Unless the person wanted to ask my advice then I would gladly solicit but if it is for purposes of just letting me know, what for? It is actually a dangerous thing to know a delicate issue which is supposedly a secret that the individual that has to know it is only the person himself and not anybody else. Why would I involve myself and stress myself when I have enough worries of my own? Why would I strive to know these matters? Sadly, some people are more interested in talking about other people and their mishaps, and travails, and misfortunes. I do not know if this ease their own sorrows. 🙂

What about you? Would you want to know a secret?

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This is from a discussion board I joined before where I am not active anymore.  The comments below were also from those people in that discussion board.

From inertia4

I would not be interested in knowing a secret either. Unless it directly involved me. I know for a fact now, that back when my ex was planning on leaving me, my aunt knew about it and never told me a thing. I believe she should have told me. That directly involved me. But if it were about someone else I would not want to know.

From jeanneyvonne

I guess I will be the same as you. There are some things that are exciting to share and there are somethings we really want to keep within us. Some secrets are deadly and sometimes, some are so burdensome that they cannot keep it within themselves. As a friend, sometimes I also get weary of hearing their problems rather them hearing them about mine. They seem to think that I have no problems of my own because I keep to myself and I don’;’t bother people with them. I am also contend on what my friends tell me even with secrets as long as they aren’t going to included me with it. I think some people deserve their privacy and self-respect. If they don’t want to blurt it out, it’s fine with me.

from greenwbird

It is a very dangerous thing to know others’ secret,especially when it combins to their privacy.the owner may tell his/her secret to several other persons except you ,but once the privacy disclose,everyone who knows the thing will have trouble,suspicion will stress all of you so much.so when someone wants to tell you some secret,just have enough consideration before opening your ear.

from enelym001

Sometimes I would like to know a delicate secret…and sometimes not. Sometimes I don’t have a choice specially if it’s a best friend who tells me a secret. But yes I have to agree with you that it stressed me out. Sometimes I wished I haven’t known such thing coz I feel like I am already involved. No matter how I try to encourage the person I still feel I have no right to tell the friend what to do- coz it is their life and they are the one to decide about their life.

from TheRealDawn

maybe to help the other person? idk

from sjvg1976

Hello bingskee, I agree! Sometimes there are secrets which i would definitely like to know but there are some secrets too which i won’t like to know unnecessarily stressing my mind.There are people though who always remain interested to know secrets about others as they need something to gossip around which in my opinion is really bad and they should avoid it.

from dorothy172

I agree with what you said, it just depend on what secret is that? If it is a secret to success, i think i would like to know about it, because it is a way of self development. But if it is a secret of somebody else, i am not interesrted with it. Since i cant guarantee i can keep the secret for he or she. So better not to know about it.

from sexybeast

i know of some people who live for gossip. they couldn’t resist knowing juicy tidbits. they even beg the other person to tell it to them, pretending they could help but offer advice. sad, really! i can keep a secret (bragging aside). i’ve proven it myself. will i choose to? hmmmm… depends if he/she really wants to tell me and if i can help him/her.

from smacksman

I think the worst is when a friend talks to you about something personal and then at the end says ‘Please keep to to yourself’ or ‘Please keep this secret’. Now you have no choice because you have already been told the secret! You have no choice whether to accept the secret or not! While I keep all secrets given to me I know that some do not. Now this person that told you a secret finds out that the secret is out – it is no longer a secret. Now I know that I did not reveal his secret but does he know that? ! I know that he must have told his secret to at least one other person or that the secret has been exposed by some other event, maybe by chance. Whatever the reason, it still leaves an element of suspision between friends. Not good.

from grasyia

It all depends on what secret. If it’s too personal i think I wouldn’t want to know.

from uggonen

It really depends on who the other person is. If its some good friend of mine then maybe yes but if its some random person on the street then no thank you.

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