According to Lewis Smedes, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner is you.”
Such is the case most of the time. We are imprisoned by the many negative emotions in our lives that we tend to get perverted by them and make us unable to give a chance and put a period to the never-ending pain caused by the many situations or events that neither of us want. Our visions are blurred by these many negative things which do not help a bit.
Until an end has to happen and it is without recourse that the substance of the whole ‘forgiveness’ thing becomes wasted.
When my father died, for example, it felt like I did not have the chance to say the things I wanted to say, and to ask forgiveness, too, for any wrong that I did and any hurt that I had caused.him.