Like most people on this planet earth, where each has to be ready with a reserve of emotional strength and support, parents should have something like an online backup to be able to deal with the difficulties they are designated to encounter. How would a parent confront the possibility that his or her child will not graduate, for example?
Parents always wish to accomplish the task entitled to them of sending off their children to school. By accomplishing means, the children will graduate or finish school one day. There is more to the feeling that a parent encounters when a child completed school. As the child was able to finish school, a parent feels proud that he or she was able to provide for the schooling so that the child (or children) will be cultured, learned, and educated.
Of course, reasons could be varied. In a poor nation such as the Philippines, parents strive to work hard for the children’s needs that include education. The rewards of hard work are always expected when the children cooperate and do their part of trying to be as scholarly, or trying to pass and graduate. The rewards are expected in the form of the children doing the role of providing for the family’s needs and of working for the other siblings’ education and basic needs, too, in the future. It could be a tiring endless cycle for some.
There are also scenarios where the parents do not care at all about education because of poverty, or mere lack of concern. Some children take the situation as an inspiration and some could not afford to veer away and continue what their parents are doing – to live and worry only for each day.
Currently, as the world’s demands are becoming complex and diverse, to graduate is a must. And it is not only what is realized today. To graduate is also becoming a minimum requirement. Chances are becoming narrow, opportunities becoming scarce. To graduate with commendations and accomplishments give one an edge over the others. To graduate with honors is now becoming a ticket to obtain a job that could provide more or enough food and other nourishment for the table, a (very) decent roof to take shelter, varied clothing to protect the body, and enough (if not lots of) money for extravagance.
The choice will always be made by the children. The decision to graduate (with or without distinction or honors), or not to graduate, will depend solely on their own priorities, plans, beliefs, ideals, points of views in life. Other people, not even the parents who had given provisions for their education, really matter about their decision. It will always be their choice, if given the freedom to do so, that would ascend from everything.
It could be ingratitude as initially perceived when children seem not to care but only about their own plans in life. But parents and guardians are there only as tour guides. They could only wish that the child’s (children’s) life (lives) will be okay, or better. They could only pray and hope for their well-being, that the precepts they imparted will serve their purpose. To expect more could mean disappointments and disillusionments. To expect the unexpected is a reward in itself.